Overcoming Quitting

David Goggins talks a lot about overcoming the quitting mind.

Since I listened to his book, Can’t Hurt Me on Audible, something snapped in me that overcame my own bullshit and excuses.

I became a man on fire and hence this new lifestyle of thriving beyond trauma was born.

I was going to the CrossFit gym 5-6 days per week, getting up on Sundays at 4:30am to go trail running, started taking cold showers, and began to develop this fierce “do anything” attitude.

By developing physically, I was also learning to push through pain.

David Goggins calls this developing “mental toughness.”

His refrain, “Stay Hard” became my mantra.

I even competed in a couple CrossFit competitions.

In the first one, I was rewarded for my ability to push myself and got a medal.

In the second competition, I hurt myself.

Since I hurt my shoulder about a month ago, I’ve had to scale back the intensity, and have the perfect, doctor-approved excuse to relax.

At first, it was hard to scale back, but when I couldn’t sleep because of the pain, I decided to take it easy.

Taking it easy has been both a blessing and a barrier…

I’m learning lessons, and it’s affected the intensity of my drive…

Today was one of those days I did not want to push myself.

Today is a day I get to practice overcoming the quitting mind.

The Bottle-Rocket Effect

I am awesome at starting NEW things!

I have tremendous enthusiasm and throw myself passionately into what I’m into.

Much like a bottle-rocket, I have (at times) taken off skyward in a blaze of glory only to fizzle out as I reach my zenith of interest.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I have staying power once the initial enthusiasm wanes.

I was married for quite a while.

I started a business as an arborist that lasted for quite a while.

I have a degree in social work and a minor in psychology.

When the time comes, I can buckle down and stick with something.

However, there are areas in my life where I start off “all in,” and then lose my enthusiasm somewhere in the mundane or challenging ebb and flow.

Since I hurt my shoulder and have backed off on the workout intensity, I obviously (maybe not obviously) have not entered any more CrossFit competitions.

Sure, I still push myself (and others) hard at the gym and still try to compete with my friends even when I say I’m not.

So, the drive is still there, but to a lesser degree.

I’m not at the point of quitting CrossFit, not by a longshot, but my goals of becoming a coach and regular competitor seem to have lost their luster.

The alarm went off today at 4:30am, I had a hard time sleeping last night due to shoulder pain and sunburn, I was deep in dreamland, and my mind said, “No.”

“You don’t have to do this workout today…”

“It’s Memorial Day. It’s your day off.”

“You don’t have to get up and write the blog.”

“You can take today off.”

“Your shoulder is not healed. You don’t need to do today’s challenge.”

Chop Wood and Carry Water

Some think the Buddha said, “Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water.”

Another source says it was P’ang, a Chinese Ch’an Buddhist, who wrote it 1200 years ago.

Regardless, the question is what do you do when you feel like quitting?

What do you do when the things that excited you seem too hard or boring?

In my case, I practice keeping commitments.

One commitment is to make my word impeccable.

When Don Miguel Ruiz said in his book, The Four Agreements, to be impeccable with your word, he was referring to how we talk to and about others and ourselves.

What it means to me in this context, is that if I say I’m going to do something, I’ll do it.

I made a commitment to write a blog entry Monday through Friday.

No one else is going to build this blog and life coaching career of mine.

This is not only my passion; it is my job!

And I love my job!

And my brain told me this morning, “You don’t have to do your job today.”

Part of the spiritual practice of growing up, is doing things I don’t always want to do.

For too long, I allowed myself to make excuses of why I can’t or don’t have to do things.

For too long, have I felt the disappointment of low self esteem because I quit things.

Excuses are contagious, and if I cannot get up when I don’t feel like it and produce consistent content, I am going to continue to live the same mediocre life I’ve know heretofore.

Enough is e-fucking-nough!

Today, I get up, chop wood, and carry water.

I do the daily ritual.

As a result, I am growing as the person I esteem to be.

Commitment – #Dohardsh*t

One of my coaches has a product line called Do Hard Sh*t.

That mantra has pushed me through my development not only has an athlete, but as a person.

Coach Tammi was also the person who introduced me to David Goggins’ book.

She inspires me, and is sometimes the voice in my head that keeps me going when I think I have nothing left to give in a workout.

I also have another coach, David. He and I are a lot like brothers and push each other. We have competed together, come to the gym at 5:00am to train, and had many conversations about life.

I made a commitment to David that I was going to today’s workout.

I made a commitment to Tammi to do hard shit when I put her Do Hard Sh*t shirt on.

Do Hard Sh*t https://shopfitby.itemorder.com/shop/sale/

I made a commitment to myself to be impeccable with my word, and to do things that I am afraid of.

Every

Fucking

Day!

Today’s workout is called “The Murph.” (https://themurphchallenge.com/pages/the-workout)

To my understanding, it’s a commemorative workout in honor of Navy Seal, Lt. Michael P. Murphy.

That’s some hard shit!

I have not trained for this event.

I have been aware of the event for a little over a month, and once I hurt my shoulder, I became fairly non-committal about participating.

In fact, even yesterday I was not sure I was going to do it.

This morning, as I lie in bed watching my dream state fade, excuses filed through my mind until I said, “Fuck it! Get up!”

My success is inevitable, and the days I don’t want to get up are the days I need to get up!

Do hard shit!

I told David I’d be there.

I will regret not doing this.

I don’t care if I haven’t trained for this.

David Goggins ran a 101 fucking miles in a race with no training!

I can do this!

I’ll show up and give all that I have.

Why?

Because I fucking said I would!

Period.

The end.

Now, get the fuck up and stop making excuses!

Write about not wanting to do this and overcoming the quitting mind.

This experience may inspire others.

If nothing else, I can look myself in the fucking mirror and know that I showed up and did the fucking thing I didn’t want to do, but said I would. #accountabilitymirror

I made myself want to!

Make yourself want to do the things you don’t want to do!

Take the cold shower.

Get up and run when you don’t want to.

What ever the thing is, don’t listen to the excuses!

They are lies.

Do hard shit!

Stay hard!

Conclusion

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again.

We all have choices.

What is it that you want?

Who do you want to be?

Do you want live a life half-lived or accomplish what sets your soul on fire?

Do you want to co-sign your own bullshit and make excuses or do you want to build fucking self-esteem?

Do you want to be able to look in the mirror and be proud of who you see?

No one is coming to rescue you!

Be the hero in your own story!

When you don’t want to push yourself, that’s exactly the time to do it!

You have more inside of you than you’re aware of.

Read up on David Goggins’ 40% theory.

When you think you’re done, you have so much more to give!

Dig deep and you’ll find it!

Persevere

and

Rise!

Thank you for reading my self-motivation rant today. Hopefully, it helped you, too. If you like what you read, follow, like, and comment. I am offering Life Coaching services. If you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, reach out and we’ll get you back on track.

Be well

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